Sunday, March 07, 2004
What IS BIPC?
Dear hugshyhermit, what IS BIPC?
It's an acronym for where I work. It is a leading company in its field. It's multi-national. Working here is like living inside one of those folk-art Russian figurines; the wood doll encapsulated inside another, larger doll exactly like the one you're in; and so on and so on.
You sound cute. What do you look like?
Why thank you, I'm sure I have a face for radio. I used to be real cute, but now I have to rely on the crumbs of kindness where I can. The black and white photo in the margin was taken by my friend C, and she's a great photographer!
What do you want out of life?
I have no clue. Reason for Blog #1.
You have a degree in Historic Preservation. Why don't you go into that as a career?
I enjoyed getting that degree. When I was finished, I went on to law school.
You have a law degree. Why don't you go into that as a career?
Well, that question's a little more complicated to answer, but I'll try. First, I knew early on in law school that a traditional law career -- working in a law firm or being in a courtroom -- was not for me. And for anyone reading this who thinks they'd enjoy working sixty-plus work weeks in a pressure-cooker, then knock yourself out! That, however, is not my vision of success.
A career in preservation law would be cool; and I continued working in historic preservation during law school. When I graduated, it was during Newt Gingrich's government reforms and the one primary form of employment -- the federal government -- wasn't hiring. Instead, I got hired with BIPC's predecessor and the rest is history.
You mentioned you work out, what do you do?
I try to work out twice a week for about 45 minutes. I get my heart pumping, but if it's inside at the gym, I don't usually even break a sweat. I mostly work on shoulders, arms and abs. I started this regime at the BIPC gym about a year-and-a-half ago, and it paid off: I'd say I'm in the best physical shape of my life.
In the past, I've always walked a lot. Having a dog helps. In some of the places I lived, like Rochester NY, Providence, RI and Wolverhamption, UK, I walked everywhere including to work and didn't use a car much at all. Our society values the car too much.
Do you have a special diet?
I don't. I flirted with vegetarianism -- which philosophically I agree with -- but I was too tired. I like vegetarianism because I think it's a more efficient and thoughtful use of the world's resources. Not only is it healthy in nutrients, but it keeps out carcinogens. When I'm stressed out -- which has been a lot lately -- I forget to eat.
I don't eat a lot of sweets. I don't particularly like candy or cake or chocolate or pop or ice cream. I never buy those things for home consumption. I eat a lot of yogurt, apples, grapes, peaches and bananas. I ate a bowl of flavored oatmeal for breakfast. I eat a lot of that, too.
How many boyfriends have you had?
Oh I don't know. I dated R for 2.5 years, I dated DJ for 2 yrs, I lived with the Minister for 6. My first boyfriend also lasted about 1.5 yrs; we were both dating women, and he eventually married his girlfriend. I'm not sure I should officially include him. One person who impacted me a great deal was LF, and I dated him maybe 6 months max.
I was accused of being a serial monogamist once. I don't think I'm that.
Are you completely Out? When did you come Out? Does everyone know about you? (etc.)
I haven't talked about that because I've lived pretty openly gay for so long. I've been out since I was about 21. My parents asked me if I was gay when I was around 30. I lost some of my college friends when I told them; who knows why for sure, I think it's because they liked my girlfriend. She didn't take it too well at the time, but we've patched it up since then. I haven't had much of a problem with anyone else, including coworkers. I don't have to "come out" to people because most people figure it out -- probably because I'm going on about Madonna or Barbra or Judy or whoever, who knows why. (That's a joke, bloggies.) When the conversation turns to dating, I just join in. Maybe that's how people find out.
Are you going to write about some of your kinkiest sex experiences?
I don't know. Whenever I write about sex, I get more hits on this blog. I can tell you this: There's not really anything I haven't done that I wished I had.
And, I don't have much desire to relive some of those experiences. I have read some blogs by gay escorts and the like, but my thoughts run a bit differently. Some of my stories, if I wrote them, would begin with I thought I was in love... and would end with I thought he loved me.
Boo hoo. I'm reasonably self-aware to mention that in my mid-20s, I was frequently told I looked like I was 13 -- and this held quite a cache in certain circles. So even if the sex itself was hunky-dory, I believe some of my early experiences came at a cost. Besides, I'm more interested in the motivations and desires and emotions that people have behind sex. If I do write about these things, it will probably be really really boring. (I'm not helping develop readership loyalty, am I?)
What's with the self-help books?
I don't know. It probably goes along with the above. Some people have cooking, others have The Bible. Others have sexual positions. I have self-help books.
It's an acronym for where I work. It is a leading company in its field. It's multi-national. Working here is like living inside one of those folk-art Russian figurines; the wood doll encapsulated inside another, larger doll exactly like the one you're in; and so on and so on.
You sound cute. What do you look like?
Why thank you, I'm sure I have a face for radio. I used to be real cute, but now I have to rely on the crumbs of kindness where I can. The black and white photo in the margin was taken by my friend C, and she's a great photographer!
What do you want out of life?
I have no clue. Reason for Blog #1.
You have a degree in Historic Preservation. Why don't you go into that as a career?
I enjoyed getting that degree. When I was finished, I went on to law school.
You have a law degree. Why don't you go into that as a career?
Well, that question's a little more complicated to answer, but I'll try. First, I knew early on in law school that a traditional law career -- working in a law firm or being in a courtroom -- was not for me. And for anyone reading this who thinks they'd enjoy working sixty-plus work weeks in a pressure-cooker, then knock yourself out! That, however, is not my vision of success.
A career in preservation law would be cool; and I continued working in historic preservation during law school. When I graduated, it was during Newt Gingrich's government reforms and the one primary form of employment -- the federal government -- wasn't hiring. Instead, I got hired with BIPC's predecessor and the rest is history.
You mentioned you work out, what do you do?
I try to work out twice a week for about 45 minutes. I get my heart pumping, but if it's inside at the gym, I don't usually even break a sweat. I mostly work on shoulders, arms and abs. I started this regime at the BIPC gym about a year-and-a-half ago, and it paid off: I'd say I'm in the best physical shape of my life.
In the past, I've always walked a lot. Having a dog helps. In some of the places I lived, like Rochester NY, Providence, RI and Wolverhamption, UK, I walked everywhere including to work and didn't use a car much at all. Our society values the car too much.
Do you have a special diet?
I don't. I flirted with vegetarianism -- which philosophically I agree with -- but I was too tired. I like vegetarianism because I think it's a more efficient and thoughtful use of the world's resources. Not only is it healthy in nutrients, but it keeps out carcinogens. When I'm stressed out -- which has been a lot lately -- I forget to eat.
I don't eat a lot of sweets. I don't particularly like candy or cake or chocolate or pop or ice cream. I never buy those things for home consumption. I eat a lot of yogurt, apples, grapes, peaches and bananas. I ate a bowl of flavored oatmeal for breakfast. I eat a lot of that, too.
How many boyfriends have you had?
Oh I don't know. I dated R for 2.5 years, I dated DJ for 2 yrs, I lived with the Minister for 6. My first boyfriend also lasted about 1.5 yrs; we were both dating women, and he eventually married his girlfriend. I'm not sure I should officially include him. One person who impacted me a great deal was LF, and I dated him maybe 6 months max.
I was accused of being a serial monogamist once. I don't think I'm that.
Are you completely Out? When did you come Out? Does everyone know about you? (etc.)
I haven't talked about that because I've lived pretty openly gay for so long. I've been out since I was about 21. My parents asked me if I was gay when I was around 30. I lost some of my college friends when I told them; who knows why for sure, I think it's because they liked my girlfriend. She didn't take it too well at the time, but we've patched it up since then. I haven't had much of a problem with anyone else, including coworkers. I don't have to "come out" to people because most people figure it out -- probably because I'm going on about Madonna or Barbra or Judy or whoever, who knows why. (That's a joke, bloggies.) When the conversation turns to dating, I just join in. Maybe that's how people find out.
Are you going to write about some of your kinkiest sex experiences?
I don't know. Whenever I write about sex, I get more hits on this blog. I can tell you this: There's not really anything I haven't done that I wished I had.
And, I don't have much desire to relive some of those experiences. I have read some blogs by gay escorts and the like, but my thoughts run a bit differently. Some of my stories, if I wrote them, would begin with I thought I was in love... and would end with I thought he loved me.
Boo hoo. I'm reasonably self-aware to mention that in my mid-20s, I was frequently told I looked like I was 13 -- and this held quite a cache in certain circles. So even if the sex itself was hunky-dory, I believe some of my early experiences came at a cost. Besides, I'm more interested in the motivations and desires and emotions that people have behind sex. If I do write about these things, it will probably be really really boring. (I'm not helping develop readership loyalty, am I?)
What's with the self-help books?
I don't know. It probably goes along with the above. Some people have cooking, others have The Bible. Others have sexual positions. I have self-help books.